编者按：本文论述清晰简洁，作者分别从孩子对父母的崇拜之情，责任心和宽宏大量的性格这三方面的培养上，道出教育孩子的看法，典型之余，也有一定参考价值，文中，尤其结尾所述的关键问题，对教育孩子作了很好的点明，读来相信能让读者有所思考。整体来说，若能丰富论述，本文会更加出色。
一：从小要培养孩子对父母的崇拜之情，这里所说的崇拜并不是臣服，而是发自内心的敬佩。只有孩子敬佩你，他才相信你，听你的话，否则他也会蔑视你的。比如孩子的玩具坏了，你要和他一块修，修的过程要不断地和孩子交流意见，而且再简单的毛病也不要一下子修好，否则他会认为你天生就会。你要装作和他一样茫然，慢慢修，最后修好了，他会用敬佩的眼光看着你然后说：“爸爸你太厉害了。”这时你也要回一句：“孩子你也一样棒，”双方都得到了满足和尊敬。培养孩子的崇拜之情，千万要在他那个年龄阶段他认为了不起的事情上，否则适得其反，比如你的事业很成功，为了培养孩子对你的崇拜之情，你就带着他出入各种酒场，让他亲自感受到你是如何的春风得意，让他亲耳听一些对你的阿谀奉承的话语，这种场合对成年人来讲可能有用，但对于孩子来说没有一点益处，正好相反，他会认为他的生活生来就这样，慢慢地就变成了纨绔子弟，对于你所给与他的一切也没有一点感激之情，更甭提崇拜之情了。 二：从小要培养孩子的责任心。怎样培养孩子的责任心呢？谈点拙见，首先自己要有责任心，作错了事要勇于承担，不要找各种理由狡辩，在孩子还不懂的狡辩之前就得提前培养责任心，如何培养呢？举个例子，孩子在蹒跚学步时不小心摔倒了，这时大人往往会很快地把孩子揽入怀里，然后指着地说：“都是地不平，把俺孩子绊倒了，”接着一阵痛骂。这样教育孩子是不对的，久而久之他也学会了，原来责任是可以这样推掉的，其实孩子他也明白，是自己不小心摔倒的。所以教育孩子要实事求是，是自己的问题要勇于承担，就算他当时不明白，至少大人别往错误方向上引导。 三：从小要培养孩子宽宏大量的性格，不要斤斤计较。如何培养呢？再谈点拙见，举个例子，当孩子惹你生气了，孩子给你道歉了，你千万不要不依不饶，而且还要放下大人的姿态笑脸相对，因为孩子的脸就是一分钟就变。当然培养孩子的宽宏大量的性格是一个长期而艰巨的过程，在这里我只举这么一个小小例子，并不能解决什么问题，见笑了。 孩子的成长是一个复杂的过程，关键的问题是要把自己也当做孩子，不要把自己放在大人的位置上居高临下教育孩子，要陪孩子一块成长，即成长了孩子也完善了自己。
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Saturday, November 28, 2009
Thursday, November 19, 2009
懂得什麼時候不要說話是一種智慧
每個戀人和每個家庭都會遇到的經濟上的危機。如果你的家人精明一世、糊塗一時，運氣不好被倒會，或為朋友作保受牽連，你當然也會跟著不開心，但懂的相處之道的人，自然得避免在這時製造雙方的裂痕，不該有話直說的埋怨道：「我早就知道，你這麼貪財一定會遭到報應！」或「我早就告訴你那個人不可靠了,你偏要相信他，這下好了吧，知道我的話是對的了吧？」這些話比直截了當罵「你這個白癡！」更難聽。這時候沉默是最好的支持，其實犯錯者本身必然從失敗中的到教訓，不必再送給他一頓鞭子。對方在度過難關以後，會終身感激你的支持。甚至，你什麼都沒做，他也會對你感激涕零的。懂得什麼時候不要說話，是一種智慧。當朋友也是一樣。在別人哀慟欲絕的時候，你還要追根究底，就像人家的傷疤好不容易在結痂，你還來撥人家的痂。最好的安慰是無言的微笑，和傾聽。有智慧的父母也是孩子福份。在英國遊學的時候，住宿家庭隔壁就住了一對很有智慧的夫妻。他們剛好度過七年之癢。有一次我在院子看書，目睹隔壁院子發生的事情。布朗先生正在教他五歲的兒子安迪使用剪草機，父子兩剪得正高興時，父親進門去接電話。接著我看到一幕慘劇；五歲的安迪把剪草機推向父親最愛的鬱金香花園，不一會，已經有兩公尺長的花圃糟殃。布朗先生出來，鐵青著一張臉。眼看他的拳頭已經高高的舉起......忽然，布朗太太出來了，她看見滿目狼藉的花圃，馬上知明白發生了什麼事。她小聲、溫柔地對先生笑道：「喂，我們現在人生最大的幸福是養孩子，不是在養鬱金香。」三秒鐘後，他們交換一個吻，一切歸於平靜。我把這個故事告訴好友，她是個家庭主婦。後來她告訴我，很感激我跟她說這個故事。「以前孩子打破東西，我少不了罵他兩聲，現在我會告訴自己，對我重要的是孩子，不是碗。哪個小孩在成長過程不會打破東西呢？」情緒智商高的人懂得分輕重。如果你真的珍視感情的價值，就該懂得在他倒霉的時候施小惠。也許我們都沒有聰明到「一句解千愁」的地步。但傾聽卻是人人做得到的施恩行為。傾聽，常比替他義憤填膺或替他擔起一切聰明一百倍。
http://www.jkforum.net/viewthread.php?tid=1148664&extra=page%3D1%26entry%3D1
http://www.jkforum.net/viewthread.php?tid=1148664&extra=page%3D1%26entry%3D1
Friday, November 06, 2009
THE HARVARD GRADUATES
Two young men who had just graduated from Harvard were all excited and talking effusively as they got into a taxi in downtown Boston. After hearing them for a couple of minutes the cab driver asked, "You men Harvard graduates?" "Yes Sir! Class of '94!" they answered proudly. The cab driver extended his hand back to shake their hand, saying, "Class of '58." http://www.comedy-zone.net/jokes/laugh/education/student6.htm
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
So, are you a procrastinator?
Indeed, this is a very silly question because we all are. Procrastination is fundamental to human beings. Procrastination is simply the habit of putting off for tomorrow what you can do today.
The fact is that nine out of ten of us have this habit. We tend to postpone jobs and tasks. The thing about procrastination is that we tend to put off only those tasks that seem unappealing to us. If the task is boring, or monotonous, or involves too much hard work, then it stands a very good chance of getting postponed. It is not because of the lack of time that we do not do the task. On the contrary, we might have plenty of time to do it but we tend to postpone it and justify ourselves saying that we do not have the time for it.
The truth is the job becomes more unpleasant the more you postpone it. Fortunately there is a simple technique that will help you to stop putting things off. =>
Technique:
Break big jobs down into small manageable tasks. Something that would take only 5-10 minutes to complete. Make it as tiny as you can. Let's say your goal is to lose weight and you decided to work out every day for 30 minutes. You could write down your assignment: "Do one exercise for lower abs 10 times." Yes, just one exercise, just 10 times. It would take you about 1 or 2 minutes.
The secret is that the most difficult thing is to get started. Once you get started you're 95% most likely to finish the whole 30 minute work out! Even if you do one exercise 10 times, it is better than nothing. You wouldn't feel guilty and depressed - you've fulfilled your assignment! And if you do more you'll feel even better! The trick is to give yourself a really small task: To make a phone call, or to read one page of a textbook. And once you get started you will actually find out that you won't mind doing more than you planned!
See you at the top.
The fact is that nine out of ten of us have this habit. We tend to postpone jobs and tasks. The thing about procrastination is that we tend to put off only those tasks that seem unappealing to us. If the task is boring, or monotonous, or involves too much hard work, then it stands a very good chance of getting postponed. It is not because of the lack of time that we do not do the task. On the contrary, we might have plenty of time to do it but we tend to postpone it and justify ourselves saying that we do not have the time for it.
The truth is the job becomes more unpleasant the more you postpone it. Fortunately there is a simple technique that will help you to stop putting things off. =>
Technique:
Break big jobs down into small manageable tasks. Something that would take only 5-10 minutes to complete. Make it as tiny as you can. Let's say your goal is to lose weight and you decided to work out every day for 30 minutes. You could write down your assignment: "Do one exercise for lower abs 10 times." Yes, just one exercise, just 10 times. It would take you about 1 or 2 minutes.
The secret is that the most difficult thing is to get started. Once you get started you're 95% most likely to finish the whole 30 minute work out! Even if you do one exercise 10 times, it is better than nothing. You wouldn't feel guilty and depressed - you've fulfilled your assignment! And if you do more you'll feel even better! The trick is to give yourself a really small task: To make a phone call, or to read one page of a textbook. And once you get started you will actually find out that you won't mind doing more than you planned!
See you at the top.
Monday, August 17, 2009
What's My Positive Thinking Level?
http://www.quibblo.com/quiz/1cKSG67/Whats-Your-Positive-Thinking-Level
Welcome to the Positive Thinking level test! We all know how important is positive thinking to accomplish success and achieve all goals. But do you know your personal "positivity level"? Answer these 10 simple questions and find out!
The result:
Congratulations! You are a genuinely optimistic person! You see the bright side in every situation and are not afraid to take risks, but at the same time your decisions are usually very well thought out. If you see an opportunity you don’t let it pass by. You know that things will work out in the end and the almost always do. Your positive and realistic attitude attracts other people to you and a lot of times they seek your advice or help. One word of warning though, even with your heady optimism there could still be moments in your life, when you’ll feel down or upset. It is absolutely normal. Don’t be afraid to share your problems and worries with others, if you feel down. Even the most optimistic people in the world sometimes need support and encouragement!
Welcome to the Positive Thinking level test! We all know how important is positive thinking to accomplish success and achieve all goals. But do you know your personal "positivity level"? Answer these 10 simple questions and find out!
The result:
Congratulations! You are a genuinely optimistic person! You see the bright side in every situation and are not afraid to take risks, but at the same time your decisions are usually very well thought out. If you see an opportunity you don’t let it pass by. You know that things will work out in the end and the almost always do. Your positive and realistic attitude attracts other people to you and a lot of times they seek your advice or help. One word of warning though, even with your heady optimism there could still be moments in your life, when you’ll feel down or upset. It is absolutely normal. Don’t be afraid to share your problems and worries with others, if you feel down. Even the most optimistic people in the world sometimes need support and encouragement!
Happiness in YOU
Happiness seems to be the single thread that ties many people together because everyone seeks happiness at some point in their life. Happiness is not elusive, yet it seems that many people have trouble knowing what happiness truly is, or how to find it for themselves.
Happiness is defined as a state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Let's break down this definition to get a clearer picture of exactly what happiness is...
First, take note that happiness is defined by your emotions. Let that thought soak in for a minute. Now read it again: Happiness is defined by your emotions. That means you can choose to be happy, or not. Happiness is clearly and solely dependent upon your attitude and thoughts.
Your emotions, ranging from contentment to joy, is what defines that feeling of happiness you can experience. Contentment is simply being happy with your lot in life.
Your attitude defines your happiness...or unhappiness.
The secret of happiness doesn't lie in having all the things you think you need. Many people say that if they just had a couple more thousand dollars, or a bigger house, or a better job, then their life would be better and they'd be happier.
The truth is, no matter how much physical possessions you own, those things can never define your happiness. You must reach deep within yourself and become content with your life as it is. That is when you'll learn the true secret of happiness.
See you at the top
Happiness is defined as a state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Let's break down this definition to get a clearer picture of exactly what happiness is...
First, take note that happiness is defined by your emotions. Let that thought soak in for a minute. Now read it again: Happiness is defined by your emotions. That means you can choose to be happy, or not. Happiness is clearly and solely dependent upon your attitude and thoughts.
Your emotions, ranging from contentment to joy, is what defines that feeling of happiness you can experience. Contentment is simply being happy with your lot in life.
Your attitude defines your happiness...or unhappiness.
The secret of happiness doesn't lie in having all the things you think you need. Many people say that if they just had a couple more thousand dollars, or a bigger house, or a better job, then their life would be better and they'd be happier.
The truth is, no matter how much physical possessions you own, those things can never define your happiness. You must reach deep within yourself and become content with your life as it is. That is when you'll learn the true secret of happiness.
See you at the top
Thursday, April 30, 2009
How Excellent Is Your Customer Service?
Great Customer Service Is A Choice
No one can MAKE or FORCE you serve customers well. That's because great service is a choice.Harvey Mackay, author of the New York Times #1 bestsellers Swim With The Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive and Beware the Naked Man Who Offers You His Shirt, tells a wonderful story about a cab driver that proved this point.He was waiting in line for a ride at the airport. When a cab pulled up, the first thing Harvey noticed was that the taxi was polished to a bright shine. Smartly dressed in a white shirt, black tie, and freshly pressed black slacks, the cab driver jumped out and rounded the car to open the back passenger door for Harvey.He handed my friend a laminated card and said, "I'm Wally, your driver. While I'm loading your bags in the trunk, I'd like you to read my mission statement."Taken aback, Harvey read the card.Wally's Mission Statement:To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment.This blew Harvey away. Especially when he noticed that the inside of the cab matched the outside. Spotlessly clean!As he slid behind the wheel, Wally said, "Would you like a cup of coffee? I have a thermos of regular and one of decaf." Harvey said jokingly, "No, I'd prefer a soft drink."Wally smiled and said, "No problem. I have a cooler up front with regular and Diet Coke, water and orange juice."Almost stuttering, Harvey said, "I'll take a Diet Coke."Handing him his drink, Wally said, "If you'd like something to read, I have The Wall Street Journal, Time, Sports Illustrated and USA Today."As they were pulling away, Wally handed Harvey another laminated card, "These are the stations I get and the music they play, if you'd like to listen to the radio."And as if that weren't enough, Wally told Harvey that he had the air conditioning on and asked if the temperature was comfortable for him.Then he advised Harvey of the best route to his destination for that time of day. He also let him know that he'd be happy to chat and tell him about some of the sights or, if Harvey preferred, to leave him with his own thoughts."Tell me, Wally, have you always served customers like this?"Wally smiled into the rear view mirror. "No, not always. In fact, it's only been in the last two years. My first five years driving, I spent most of my time complaining like all the rest of the cabbies do. Then I heard the personal growth guru, Wayne Dyer , on the radio one day. He had just written a book called "You'll See It When You Believe It". Dyer said that if you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you'll rarely disappoint yourself.He said, "Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Don't be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.""That hit me right between the eyes," said Wally. "Dyer was really talking about me. I was always quacking and complaining, so I decided to change my attitude and become an eagle.I looked around at the other cabs and their drivers. The cabs were dirty, the drivers were unfriendly, and the customers were unhappy. So I decided to make some changes. I put in a few at a time. When my customers responded well, I did more.""I take it that has paid off for you," Harvey said."It sure has," Wally replied. "My first year as an eagle, I doubled my income from the previous year. This year I'll probably quadruple it. You were lucky to get me today. I don't sit at cabstands anymore. My customers call me for appointments on my cell phone or leave a message on my answering machine. If I can't pick them up myself, I get a reliable cabbie friend to do it and I take a piece of the action."Wally was phenomenal. He was running a limo service out of a Yellow Cab.I've probably told that story to more than fifty cab drivers over the years, and only two took the idea and ran with it. Whenever I go to their cities, I give them a call. The rest of the drivers quacked like ducks and told me all the reasons they couldn't do any of what I was suggesting.Wally the Cab Driver made a different choice. He decided to stop quacking like ducks and start soaring like eagles.
by Kartik Bodawala --- India
No one can MAKE or FORCE you serve customers well. That's because great service is a choice.Harvey Mackay, author of the New York Times #1 bestsellers Swim With The Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive and Beware the Naked Man Who Offers You His Shirt, tells a wonderful story about a cab driver that proved this point.He was waiting in line for a ride at the airport. When a cab pulled up, the first thing Harvey noticed was that the taxi was polished to a bright shine. Smartly dressed in a white shirt, black tie, and freshly pressed black slacks, the cab driver jumped out and rounded the car to open the back passenger door for Harvey.He handed my friend a laminated card and said, "I'm Wally, your driver. While I'm loading your bags in the trunk, I'd like you to read my mission statement."Taken aback, Harvey read the card.Wally's Mission Statement:To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment.This blew Harvey away. Especially when he noticed that the inside of the cab matched the outside. Spotlessly clean!As he slid behind the wheel, Wally said, "Would you like a cup of coffee? I have a thermos of regular and one of decaf." Harvey said jokingly, "No, I'd prefer a soft drink."Wally smiled and said, "No problem. I have a cooler up front with regular and Diet Coke, water and orange juice."Almost stuttering, Harvey said, "I'll take a Diet Coke."Handing him his drink, Wally said, "If you'd like something to read, I have The Wall Street Journal, Time, Sports Illustrated and USA Today."As they were pulling away, Wally handed Harvey another laminated card, "These are the stations I get and the music they play, if you'd like to listen to the radio."And as if that weren't enough, Wally told Harvey that he had the air conditioning on and asked if the temperature was comfortable for him.Then he advised Harvey of the best route to his destination for that time of day. He also let him know that he'd be happy to chat and tell him about some of the sights or, if Harvey preferred, to leave him with his own thoughts."Tell me, Wally, have you always served customers like this?"Wally smiled into the rear view mirror. "No, not always. In fact, it's only been in the last two years. My first five years driving, I spent most of my time complaining like all the rest of the cabbies do. Then I heard the personal growth guru, Wayne Dyer , on the radio one day. He had just written a book called "You'll See It When You Believe It". Dyer said that if you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you'll rarely disappoint yourself.He said, "Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Don't be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.""That hit me right between the eyes," said Wally. "Dyer was really talking about me. I was always quacking and complaining, so I decided to change my attitude and become an eagle.I looked around at the other cabs and their drivers. The cabs were dirty, the drivers were unfriendly, and the customers were unhappy. So I decided to make some changes. I put in a few at a time. When my customers responded well, I did more.""I take it that has paid off for you," Harvey said."It sure has," Wally replied. "My first year as an eagle, I doubled my income from the previous year. This year I'll probably quadruple it. You were lucky to get me today. I don't sit at cabstands anymore. My customers call me for appointments on my cell phone or leave a message on my answering machine. If I can't pick them up myself, I get a reliable cabbie friend to do it and I take a piece of the action."Wally was phenomenal. He was running a limo service out of a Yellow Cab.I've probably told that story to more than fifty cab drivers over the years, and only two took the idea and ran with it. Whenever I go to their cities, I give them a call. The rest of the drivers quacked like ducks and told me all the reasons they couldn't do any of what I was suggesting.Wally the Cab Driver made a different choice. He decided to stop quacking like ducks and start soaring like eagles.
by Kartik Bodawala --- India
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